If we want to live our own inner life, our own world, our own truth, we have to free ourselves from identifications. Because identifying ourselves with another person or another world, as our own, another moral system, as the one we intuitively perceive as right and beneficial, alienates us from ourselves.
As long as we are alienated from ourselves, we do not think for ourselves when we think, we do not act for ourselves when we act and we do not speak for ourselves when we speak. We are someone different from ourselves and from the world than who we are in truth.
Identity is simply to be ourselves. But for many of us it is not as easy as it sounds. We have more or less all gone through an educational mill that alienated us from ourselves, that filled our minds with standard terms instead of truths, with collective norms, instead of reflecting and making our own world of being understandable.
For many of us, identity is therefore a whole process that extends over years, if not over our entire lives, a process of (re)finding ourselves. In this learning process it is essential for most of us to learn to say no and to listen to our inner needs, to express them and to bring them to bear. Only when we listen to ourselves will we be listened to, only when we respect ourselves in our innermost world will the world respect us, the others, or society, the collective, as a whole.
Our first step towards reconciliation with society and a truly social life is therefore to recognize, acknowledge and live our own identity.
The detachment from identification and role-playing is an inevitable step, but only a first step. But to the extent that we free ourselves from identification, we gain the inner freedom to be truly ourselves and to affirm our identity.
Our thinking, speaking and acting then has a different quality, as it takes place from the centre of our wholeness. It is then thinking, speaking and acting whole.